Category: Musings

Caught between Gaza and a hard place

It’s been a challenging week. Not as challenging, of course, for those who continue to suffer in Gaza, the West Bank, South Lebanon and beyond, but challenging for me in a different kind of way.

My LinkedIn posts, whatever the topic, tend to come from a place of genuine curiosity, compassion or concern. Anyone who knows me will be aware of my heightened level of sensitivity, my ‘empathy overdrive’ as I often call it. It’s something I struggle with, not rejoice in. So when I post about unimaginable human suffering that most of the world seems to be ignoring, I don’t expect to have to justify calling it out. I assume that the feeling of sadness, anger and frustration would be universal. Suffering is suffering, and it shouldn’t be necessary to debate whether some suffering is acceptable while some is not.

At least that’s what I would hope.

But defend myself I have. Over the last few months I’ve found myself repeatedly challenged by those who believe the deaths of 75,000 civilians in Gaza is somehow okay, that they deserved it in some way, and that any country should have the right to do whatever it likes in order to defend itself. It’s the same with Lebanon. The argument goes that the displacement of millions, the deaths of thousands and the levelling of entire towns and villages in the south is fine because the objective is self defence, even if those being killed and displaced have nothing to do with the conflict. “Our lives, and our right to live in peace, is greater than anyone else’s”.

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From what I can tell there are a handful of ‘common justifications’ for the war, and the repeated violations of the ceasefire and humanitarian law, in Gaza in particular:

  • October 7th
  • Hostages (less relevant now)
  • ‘They’ want Israel annihilated 
  • Hamas must be completely defeated
  • Preventing future attacks
  • Buffer zones for security
  • Hamas uses civilian infrastructure for military purposes
  • Israel ‘has no choice’
  • Everyone in the strip is a terrorist and therefore a legitimate target

Some of my posts start with the words ‘Buts aside’ because I refuse to believe that anyone could be proud of what’s being done in their name. How anyone can’t feel an ounce of remorse or concern for any of this is beyond me. Because the numbers speak for themselves.

  • In Gaza there have been 72,819 reported civilian deaths and 172,894 wounded. Over 20,000 children have died, and 45,000 injured
  • At least 235 journalists and media workers have been killed in Gaza, despite claims they are never targeted
  • The World Health Organisation has documented 735 attacks on health care facilities in Gaza, including 35 attacks on hospitals. This is not just immoral. It’s illegal under international humanitarian law
  • In Southern Lebanon, 16 hospitals have been damaged in recent weeks, and 147 ambulances have been attacked. Five hospitals have been forced to close. There are no tunnels under these hospitals
  • UN satellite analysis has identified 123,464 structures destroyed in Gaza with another 198,273 damaged. 81% of all structures in the strip have been hit
  • Roughly 60% of Gaza’s population – approximately 1.2 million people – have lost their homes
  • Tens of thousands of properties have been systematically demolished in Southern Lebanon since the ‘ceasefire’ in a 600 square kilometre ‘buffer zone’
  • Israel’s far-right National Security Minister Itamar Ben-Gvir released a video of him taunting foreign flotilla activists who were bound and tied on the ground after their arrest and detention
  • UN Human Rights report that Israeli forces and settlers have killed 1,054 Palestinians in the West Bank, including East Jerusalem. Over 760 settler attacks have been documented since the outbreak of war, the majority supported and encouraged by Israel’s far right government
  • The UN recently added Israel to its ‘blacklist’ for sexual violence in conflict zones, a significant international condemnation reflecting documented allegations of abuse by detained flotilla activists and broader concerns about the treatment of Palestinian detainees
  • Over 3,000 people have been killed by Israeli attacks on Lebanon in the past three months
  • Over a million people in Gaza remain in urgent need of basic shelter and humanitarian relief
  • The list goes on

People can agree with it or not, or feel it is justified or not, but these things have all happened, or continue to happen. The only thing that appears to be in dispute is whether or not the victims deserved it, which is a hard pill to swallow.

I truly get the anger and distress caused by October 7th, if we take just one justification for the war. What happened that day was horrific, barbaric and inexcusable. But so has been the response. Yet I don’t see a single comment from anyone sharing an ounce of regret or demonstrating any embarrassment or shame for the extreme actions of the Israeli government. None. Many just cheer on the IDF and say how amazing it all is, and what heroes they are. And then they wonder why the tide of public opinion is increasingly turning against them. But not to worry – just call all critics antisemitic and ‘jew haters’ and they’ll soon be scared into submission. That’s the tactic, anyway.

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On many occasions I’ve tried to respond honestly to supporters of the war in my effort to genuinely understand the mindset of those I don’t agree with. But so far it’s proved virtually impossible. On top of the killing, the suffering and the distress of everyone living in Palestine, Iran and Lebanon, my biggest disappointment is the lack of humanity shown by the aggressors – on both sides.

One day, as Omar El Akkad puts it brilliantly in his book, everyone will have always been against this. But right now it feels like much of the world is washing its hands of the whole sorry saga, and meanwhile the killings go on.

This is fine

“Terrible things are happening outside. Poor helpless people are being dragged out of their homes or off the street. Families are torn apart. Men, women and children are separated. Children come home from school to find that their parents have disappeared”.

This quote is taken from Anne Frank’s diary in an entry dated January 13th, 1943. Yet any Palestinian could have said it any time over the last 60 years, or any American any time over the last 12 months.

At some point in their lives roughly one in every five Palestinian men in Gaza and the West Bank have been arrested – or abducted – and detained without charge. Just stop and think about that for a moment. Several thousand Palestinians are still held in Israeli detention centres or prisons. Indefinitely. Without charge.

Hundreds of those are children.

In the USA, ICE agents arrested a mind-blowing 328,000 people during 2025. Out of those, 327,000 were deported. Four people were killed during attempts to arrest them. Protestors aren’t safe, either. Just remember what happened last week.

And in the UK last summer, thousands of elderly protesters – including an 83-year-old Anglican priest, a 79-year-old Holocaust survivor’s daughter and an 89-year-old retired psychotherapist – were arrested for demanding an end to genocide in Gaza.

These are all acts of democratically elected governments.

If you thought this could never happen in the ‘civilised West’, think again. The rules-based order we’ve all come to depend on is being pulled apart right in front of our eyes. Laws are being applied selectively, power overriding accountability and norms once taken for granted are being openly ignored.

We might not know how to put an end to these horrors, but let’s not pretend they’re not happening.

One day they might come for you.

Trouble in paradise

Most of us have pondered the miracle of life at some time or another. It’s hard to get your head around, but Bill Bryson breaks things down in ‘A Short History of Nearly Everything‘ in the most incredible way. He writes:

To begin with, for you to be here now trillions of drifting atoms had to somehow assemble in an intricate and curiously obliging manner to create you. It’s an arrangement so specialised and particular that it has never been tried before and will only exist this once. For the next many years (we hope) these tiny particles will uncomplainingly engage in all the billions of deft, co-operative efforts necessary to keep you intact and let you experience the supremely agreeable but generally under appreciated state known as existence. 

As if that weren’t enough, our home planet is equally as amazing. Earth isn’t even the tiniest speck of dust on the vastest of stages. In the grand scheme of things we’re irrelevant. The universe we can actually see (forget everything we can’t) stretches approximately 93 billion light-years across – a distance so incomprehensible that light, traveling at 186,000 miles per second, would take 93 billion years to cross it. And our galaxy is just one of an estimated two trillion galaxies scattered throughout space. We might feel like the centre of the universe, but we’re far from it.

‘Pale Blue Dot’ is a photograph of Earth taken on February 14th, 1990 by NASA’s Voyager 1 spacecraft from a distance of about 3.7 billion miles (6 billion kilometres) away. In the image, Earth appears as a tiny, almost imperceptible blue speck suspended in a band of scattered sunlight, highlighting the planet’s fragility and smallness in the immensity of space. It sure is lonely out there.

We haven’t even touched on the sun, an ‘average’ star among roughly 400 billion other stars in our galaxy. But get this. Earth orbits it at a distance of 93 million miles, a position so precisely calibrated that scientists call it the ‘Goldilocks Zone’. Too close and we’d be scorched like Venus (which has surface temperatures reaching 900 degrees Fahrenheit). Too far, and we’d freeze like Mars, where water exists only as ice. This delicate positioning represents one of countless astronomical miracles that make life on Earth possible.

Sometimes it all feels so unreal, it’s tempting to think it’s not real at all. Are we really here?

The conditions required for life as we know it are also staggeringly specific. Earth’s atmosphere contains exactly the right mixture of gases – 78% nitrogen and 21% oxygen – while its magnetic field deflects lethal cosmic radiation that would otherwise sterilise us and everything else alive. Our unusually large moon stabilises our rotation, preventing catastrophic climate swings that would make complex life impossible. Even our location within the Milky Way is fortuitous. We’re far enough from the chaotic galactic centre to avoid being bombarded by radiation, yet close enough to benefit from the heavy elements created by all those exploding stars. We literally wouldn’t be here without them.

Indeed, this is perhaps the most staggering thing of all. The carbon in our muscles, the iron in our blood and the calcium in our bones were all forged in the nuclear furnaces of ancient stars that lived, burned and died billions of years ago. When these massive stars exploded as supernovas, they scattered precious elements across space, eventually coalescing into new star systems, planets and, ultimately, us. This is precisely the miracle that Bill Bryson was getting at earlier.

‘Earth Rise’, an image captured by Apollo 8 astronaut William Anders in 1968, shows our planet rising above the lunar horizon, a powerful reminder of Earth’s beauty and fragility.

As far as we know we’re alone out there, a singular miracle not repeated any time over tens of billions of years in the vastness of space. And this is what really gets me. We just don’t know how lucky we are. Everything is a miracle. Earth is the greatest cosmic gift of all.

So why is humanity so hell bent on throwing it all away?

We’ve transformed our pale blue dot into a battlefield of endless conflicts where nations wage war over neighbours divided by invisible lines on a map, all while the very miracles that sustain life collapse around us. Our species, gifted with unprecedented intelligence and technology, chooses to poison the air we breathe, acidify the oceans that regulate our climate and drive countless other species into extinction.

Perhaps, more tragically, we’ve allowed greed and short-term thinking to override the long-term survival of us and and our miracle planet. While we possess the knowledge and capability to live happily and sustainably as one species, instead we continue strip-mining our finite resources, pumping greenhouse gases into the atmosphere and treating Earth as if we have somewhere else to go. We’ve turned our miraculous home into a dumping ground for plastic waste, chemical pollutants and nuclear materials that will outlast entire civilisations.

This conscious self-destruction represents the ultimate cosmic irony. The most complex known creation in the universe – human consciousness – actively working to destroy the very conditions that allowed it to emerge.

I think about this a lot. And whether there’s really anything I can do to stop it.

Say hello to the bystander planet

Imagine your neighbour’s house is on fire, but you’re too busy scrolling through social media to call for help, or you just assume someone else will handle it. Scale that up globally, and you’ve captured how public apathy operates during major crises.

Public indifference isn’t just inconvenient – it can be deadly. When people mentally check out from global problems governments lose political pressure to act, funding disappears and windows of opportunity close. The psychology behind this is well-documented. Our brains respond more to individual stories than mass statistics. One child in a well captivates us. 25,000 children dying daily from preventable causes is easily filed away and forgotten.

The consequences can be devastating. During the 1994 Rwandan genocide, 800,000 people died in 100 days while public pressure for intervention remained virtually nonexistent. Climate change offers another stark example. Despite scientific consensus since the 1990s, Yale research shows only 8% of Americans are worried enough to take action, giving politicians cover to delay meaningful responses for decades.

History does, however, show that apathy can be overcome. Live Aid concerts in 1985 transformed abstract Ethiopian famine statistics into urgent, actionable concern for millions. The 2014 ALS Ice Bucket Challenge used social media to raise $115 million and massive awareness for a rare disease. Environmental movements have learned to make climate change feel local and immediate rather than distant and abstract.

The most effective strategies combine emotional storytelling with clear actions, make distant problems feel personal and local, and give people confidence their contributions matter. Youth climate activists like Greta Thunberg have been particularly successful at creating urgency around problems that for many seemed distant.

Breaking through public apathy isn’t about making people feel guilty, though. It’s about understanding human psychology and designing engagement accordingly. As global challenges intensify, overcoming indifference isn’t optional – it’s existential. The biggest problems facing humanity can only be solved when enough people decide it’s worth solving.

If you feel confused, angry, disenfranchised or simply frustrated at the state of the world, check out my new project, apathy to action. You are not alone.